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Anatoly “Tom” Ostrishko, 73, of Wilmington, Delaware, died peacefully surrounded by loved ones on February 6, 2024.
He was born in Winchester, Virginia, in 1951 to Dmytro Ostrishko and Anna Derevianko. He moved to Wilmington, Delaware, with his family at the age of 3 where he became a lifelong resident. Tom graduated from Wilmington High School in 1969 and went on to get his Bachelor’s Degree from Wilmington University.
Tom met the love of his life, Kathy O’Neill, in 1969 through his longtime neighborhood friends. Excited to start their new lives together, the two were married in Corpus Christi Church on July 15, 1972. Tom and Kathy’s family grew to 3 when they welcomed their son T.J. Tom was active in coaching various teams throughout T.J.’s athletic career, even once in an emergency, being called upon to play an inning on a semi-pro team with T.J.
Tom was most proud of his family, especially his 51 year marriage to Kathy. Kathy and Tom enjoyed making lifelong memories at their beach home with family and friends.
Tom’s most cherished roles in addition to loving husband, became Dad; and “Pop-Pop” with the arrival of their grandson, Logan. Logan never failed to let Pop-Pop know when the newest horror movie was coming out that they would look forward to watching together.
Tom had a long and distinguished career with the Wilmington Police Department spanning twenty years, retiring with the rank of Lieutenant. He received many commendations and awards in recognition of his dedicated service. Tom served in several units including Patrol Division, Detectives, Vice Squad, Dive Rescue Team and the SWAT team. He also was proud to have been the first Critical Incident Stress Officer. Tom was instrumental in achieving the initial National Accreditation of the Wilmington Police Department in 1994. To this day, it is one of just 950 law enforcement agencies – out of a total of nearly 18,000 across the United States to achieve National Accreditation.
After retiring from the WPD, Tom worked with Downtown Visions from 1996 through 2002, during the Wilmington Business Improvement Development’s most important years of turnaround and growth. Tom’s next role spans twelve years with Malvern Federal Savings Bank as AML-BSA Officer. He was held in the highest regard as he played a critical role in keeping the bank in compliance with federal regulations before retiring in 2021.
Everyone who knew Tom knew how much he loved Philadelphia sports, especially the Eagles and Phillies. Tom was a true 4 for 4 Philly sports fan. His other interests included golf and many genres of movies.
Tom was preceded in death by his parents, his sisters, Luba and Valentina; nephew, David; niece, Lydia; sister-in-love, Monica; sister-in-love, Joanne; Mother-in-love, Joan; and Father-In-Law, Jim, and his sister-in-law, Betty.
He is survived by his wife, Kathy, son T.J. (Cassandra), grandson, Logan, granddaughter, Allie, brothers, Walter and John, Sister-in-love, Kim O'Neill, Brother-in-law, Kevin O'Neill (Michelle), Brother-in-law, Donald McMahon and many cherished nieces and nephews.
A visitation for Tom will be held on Thursday, February 15, 2024, at Gebhart Funeral Home, 3401 Philadelphia Pike, Claymont DE 19703, from 10:30am -11:30am, with services following. Burial will be held at All Saints Cemetery.
In lieu of flowers, the family suggests donations in Tom’s name to http://support.pancan.org/goto/Joannemcmahon
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